Never go to bed angry. how about upset, or hurt? is it twisted that i'm always the one putting myself out there physically, just to get shut down? Its common for males to want it more than females--our situation is definitely reversed WHICH normally would be fine.. It would be fine except males when turned down take three seconds to be pissed and then they roll over and get over it. Sometimes I think he forgets that it is 100% mental for females, 100% mental for his wife and by telling me he is physically horny but doesnt want to do anything straight up kicks me in the lady parts. "even though my penis wants it, I dont want to hold your body right now I have no interest in you." "I would much rather lay in bed and watch a movie for the next two hours, then let you know I care about you when you need it most."Its like I become this vulnerable peach, literally naked and getting bruised with every "no thank you". why does it hurt. so. bad? I feel pathetic for being so sad about it, I did such a good job at hiding it tonight he might have believed my charade..because when I dont hide it, I'm manipulative and force him into doing things by making him feel bad (which is what manipulating means, felt better to say it out) I'M SORRY THAT YOU FEEL GUILTY FOR NOT GIVING YOUR WIFE SEX WHEN SHE GETS NAKED FOR YOU. why in heavens name would it be MY fault for making you feel guilty?